But sadly it's not an option. I went into therapy rather ambitious, wanting to (finally) tackle my issues and get better, therefore I usually put everything on the table, even the embarrassing thoughts and feelings, because I feel (or felt) like this is the only way to get somewhere. [–]Stat_Julie_89[S] 1 point2 points3 points 1 hour ago (1 child). You’re also going to run into sexologists who use that term (although I’m of the opinion that they shouldn’t do that)—they’re more about instructional work. BetterHelp prices for similar packages of online therapy for individuals or couples is similar, starting at $35/week. And then I go through days of wishing I could take it all back and wanting to rebuild the picture my T has of me by pretending I'm doing absolutely fine the next time I see her. Don’t get me wrong; talk therapy has been helpful to a large number of people. Couples therapy is available for $99/week (billed as $396 monthly) or $89/week (billed $1,068 every 3 months). until it came up through therapy, and then with my therapist I've been able to slowly drill down and discover where those behaviours came from. You're not feeling it cuz you're not allowing yourself to feel it. Do you ever feel like you're either exaggerating or downplaying your problems within therapy sessions, but can't even tell what you're really feeling or how you're really doing anymore? (There are some ethical concerns here, and it’s critical that they tread very, very carefully depending on what services they offer and what licensure they hold.). Researchers must submit an IRB or similar documentation to the mods before posting a request for participants to the sub. Notice what is coming up for you. she kept pushing and asking me to share, and it made me feel clearly physically uncomfy (red face, stutter, fidgeting). [–]hermit_the_fraud 9 points10 points11 points 27 days ago (4 children). 😉 In all seriousness, the typical format of therapy sessions – a 50-minute session once a week – just isn’t ideal for the kind of introvert that I am. Sort of a variant of it - I have spent my life learning to "turn on" for a given moment, where I just sort of go cold and deliberative, and it is sort of my natural reaction to being in a situation with another person. I know it’s scary but you need to let go and let them worry about managing their feelings/impressions about you. My T always wants to know the ‚why‘ and where it’s coming from and all that.. she always asks me that, there’s no working on symptoms, not really. When that person is a trained therapist who can offer you valuable insight and helpful suggestions, the benefits are even greater. Have you asked them? The client only wants to complain. Clients paying for sexual services can get dicey, even if the proxy isn’t necessarily having sex with the client. [–]lil8mochi 1 point2 points3 points 5 hours ago (4 children). I know that there are proxies like this who engage in BDSM and kink practices with clients—I’ve interacted with a few who are very willing to do what the client needs, but I’ve never pried into specifics. [–]Stat_Julie_89[S] 1 point2 points3 points 5 hours ago (6 children). Claims of professional qualifications are NOT verified by the mods. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy. Having "nothing to say" during sessions and feeling anxious about it, Question for therapists about personality disorders. You've definitely been dead on a few times here. It goes beyond the fact that people are often equally reluctant to talk about their use of therapy and use of porn. ), [–]sadwitht 7 points8 points9 points 5 hours ago* (1 child). Posted Nov 06, 2010 Then the day or so before my appointment I go through all those entries, which helps me get in the right frame of mind for the appointment, and also remember what's actually been going on - I find I forget or bury these things as time goes on, and I'm likely to turn up to the appointment, forget everything that's happened and say I'm "fine" and then be frustrated with myself afterwards. I also send emails to my therapist if I have second doubts about what I said in a session and she always reassures me that she believes everything I say. Let your best effort be food enough. REDDIT and the ALIEN Logo are registered trademarks of reddit inc. π Rendered by PID 13861 on r2-app-06033d01d1cbc18df at 2020-12-20 23:43:09.896304+00:00 running 406fa40 country code: US. I totally hear you about the pressure of a list! But the easiest way to find out is to ask him! While discussing problems is certainly a large part of therapy… And then I'm struggling with both my issues (that return during the week) and the embarrassment that I let her see me like that. That would be your best bet to find out. Spanning into the Future. r/therapy: Seek therapy from the Reddit hivemind for your real or imagined glitches of the head. By David Joel Miller. [–]Stat_Julie_89[S] 1 point2 points3 points 3 hours ago (0 children). Therapists are welcome to enter any discussion or to start one themselves however self-marketing posts will be removed. Failure to do so will result in the removal of your post. So I don't actually work through them or deal, I think. Led by Brené Brown, a researcher who studies human connection, this talk humorously explores our innate ability to empathize, connect, and love each other (and ourselves). The benefits of talk therapy prove that through discussing and bettering one's life, alleviation from trauma can be reached. By Charles Schwab--Iowa State University Extension and Outreach Farmers on tractors and drivers need to exercise safety on the roads this harvest season to ensure everyone's well being. Don't Fear the End: From the beginning, talk about when you'll know you're ready to leave therapy. And sometimes I feel like the latter is making it all worse and maybe playing down my problems would at least lessen this part. Researchers must submit an IRB or similar documentation to the mods before posting a request for participants to the sub. One predictor of whether therapy will work… It feels kind of relieving while I'm writing it all down, but I'm not really sure if it's helpful since it just puts even more pressure on myself to bring it all up, not forget a thing.. and I end up reciting things like I'm doing a lecture or an oral exam lol. use the following search parameters to narrow your results: This is a place for clients and patients to discuss and share links about psychotherapy. [–]Shenanigansandtoast 18 points19 points20 points 6 hours ago (0 children), [–]sadwitht 6 points7 points8 points 5 hours ago (3 children). Talk therapy has proven to be extremely effective when treating a wide array of mental disorders. Yes, all of this, every appointment just about, word for word!! Would you be open to talking a bit about your training? "For example instead of talking about what specifically happened, explore why you want the therapist to know, what you are hoping they will do/say.". Yup, it’s almost like I’ve already gone through and processed things in my own way so I’m just retelling all of the craziness of the week. That stigma is often why people don’t seek help in the first place. One researcher looks at the data. Worrying about how others (not everyone; just people I've got certain types of relationships with) perceive me is certainly a core issue of mine. What does it mean for a therapist to be "LGBTQ-informed”? I seriously don't know. Having "nothing to say" during sessions and feeling anxious about it, Question for therapists about personality disorders. Do you ever feel like you're either exaggerating or downplaying your problems within therapy sessions, but can't even tell what you're really feeling or how you're really doing anymore? use the following search parameters to narrow your results: This is a place for clients and patients to discuss and share links about psychotherapy. A little stressed about conversation my therapist had with me regarding my insurance. I think I mainly tend to 'intellectualize' them; explain them to myself (and her); try to explain the origin of it all and the effects it has - almost as if I'm talking about someone else or as if I'm the analyst. I’m training to be a sex therapist, and I am certain he’ll be open to telling you more about it. I'm very often seriously at loss and don't even know whether I'm exaggerating or downplaying and what I'm feeling at all. Rather than cut and run , let therapy be one experience of … Put simply, talk therapy is where you speak with a trained therapist, whether one-on-one, in group session or online therapy platforms. How do you cope in between sessions when difficult subjects are brought up? Since I'm never feeling any of it during a session, tho, (why is that btw???) I didn't really know why I numb emotions (besides "that's just the way it is!") I mean, is there any way to somehow.. balance this out or find out what you're really feeling or which feelings are real and worth being discussed? It makes you cringe, and smile, and cry. I'm struggling with that a lot, just 'letting therapy happen' so to say. Yes we want you to share the story but we also need the feeling so we can process and work through it. Anyway, thanks a lot for your input! (T sexual abuse etc). i didn't share. Thank you so much. I always go into sessions fully prepared; I've already worked through it all, thought about it all, did all the work myself, basically, while actually being completely overwhelmed by it. REDDIT and the ALIEN Logo are registered trademarks of reddit inc. π Rendered by PID 7090 on r2-app-0b683e10505f328f3 at 2020-12-20 23:43:11.665459+00:00 running 406fa40 country code: US. Everything you said here is insightful and reflective and would provide really great stuff to talk about in therapy. But occasionally I encounter a client whose condition has been made worse, not better, as a result of being in therapy. For example instead of talking about what specifically happened, explore why you want the therapist to know, what you are hoping they will do/say. And I’m all for the deep talk, I like it, but I just don’t know. Thank you for sharing! I am constantly amazed at how sheltered and whitebread so many therapists are, or how judgmental they can be prepared to be. Hennings stressed that ABA works best as an early intervention, and that providing it to children in this age range shows strong results. Going to therapy for the first time is like writing and writing nonstop for your whole life, and finally sitting down to read it all out loud. This opens up a whole new world of questions like the safety precautions taken between clients or how someone even finds a proxy to provide these services. On one hand, I think there is very real potential for something like this to be incredibly healing. It’s a form of surrogate partner therapy, in which the surrogate partner (often a sexologist or similar, but ethically cannot be a licensed counselor, therapist, or psychologist) participates in real or simulated intimate situations with the client in order to help them work through their sexual/emotional issues. My initial reaction is that it’s more of a “kink-allied therapist” label—you won’t have to educate them if you need to discuss your sexuality in the context of kink. And a sexual or intimate relationship as a form of therapy is not recognized as valid by those licensing boards. © 2020 reddit inc. All rights reserved. I strongly identify with everything you wrote and want to let you know you aren’t alone. He encouraged me to talk about what I struggled with during the week and asked why I felt like I was exaggerating, which led to a talk about my family. Hostility and bullying other users will result in the offender's account being permanently banned. [–]Stat_Julie_89[S] 0 points1 point2 points 5 hours ago* (1 child). Wow. And a week later - or, actually, often only on the day of my session - I usually can't feel any of it anymore; feel completely detached from it all.. just to go through the same things again after my next session. I’m an introvert. i recently became interested in poetry and i hadn't told my therapist yet. This is something you can work on with your therapist. For me, I pick the main thing on the list that I want to talk about, or the main theme, if there's some commonalities. That's a really interesting point, tho. It really helped! Hostility and bullying other users will result in the offender's account being permanently banned. It makes logical sense that I don’t trust my own perceptions and feelings now. I almost always regret this afterwards, tho, because there's another part inside of me that wants to please and look good/stable/progress-making to my therapist so badly, that I wish I hadn't said any of this, because - hey - I wasn't even feeling it during the session so why make a big deal out of it and let it shape both the session and the way my therapist sees me? (self.TalkTherapy). Rendered by PID 13861 on r2-app-06033d01d1cbc18df at 2020-12-20 23:43:09.896304+00:00 running 406fa40 country code: US. So that was an unexpected outcome of a "light" session! I still feel like being this open and vulnerable tends to hurt me more than it does help. So yeah, I suppose going deeper into it and really getting to the actual feeling/emotion.. it's a problem for me. Thinking of entering a training program myself. The proxy might tie you up or whatever you’re into, which frees you up to fully experience it without it necessarily being sexually loaded. Talk about THAT. Common means of treatment include messaging (similar to text or email), live chat, phone calls, or video chat. Trust yourself. I'm not allowed to e-mail or contact my T outside of session (for anything else than making appointments). [–]Shenanigansandtoast 1 point2 points3 points 2 hours ago (1 child). all I can do is 'retell' what I felt during the week and it then often feels to me like I'm exaggerating or even faking things or as if I'm just trying to get my therapist's attention/empathy. The whole 'letting the therapist take control'-thing is definitely something I should consider. If therapy… I am really curious about the ethical aspects and logistics. My therapist also lists himself as a bdsm/kink therapist... what exactly does that entail/ how could he help me in that regard? Do you ever feel like you're either exaggerating or downplaying your problems within therapy sessions, but can't even tell what you're really feeling or how you're really doing anymore? So presumably, yes, they could be open to those things. If something isn’t working, it’s up to you to talk about it with your therapist. Those seeking psychological help may be better served by posting in sister subreddits such as: Obvious anti-therapy trolls will have their posts removed and be permanently banned from the sub. (And probably during?) It also can be used as a resource for people considering entering therapy or who have questions about it. Allow yourself to breathe and feel. Sometimes just one sentence. It sounds like this would very much be a situation where word-of-mouth advertising would be the only safe bet for a client. This TED Talk came highly recommended by multiple Reddit users. (And that she may even interpret it that way.) I don't really know. Having been in both ends of the spectrum I can say that they both suck and are frustrating and hard and feelings are so goddamn illogical ><, [–]SlyFrog 0 points1 point2 points 1 hour ago (0 children). [–]Tiny_Mirror_7251 2 points3 points4 points 27 days ago (0 children). Therapists are professionals working a skilled trade, let them work. Ok that is my analysis. <3, [–]Stat_Julie_89[S] 2 points3 points4 points 3 hours ago (2 children). Failure to do so will result in the removal of your post. u/Shenanigansandtoast & u/strawberrytasha: And how do you deal with that? The message is clear: Take your therapist off the pedestal and take ownership of your therapy. When I brought this up with a therapist in the past she said that my symptoms are clearly very real. But of course this is impossible since I've said what I said and she's not just gonna forget about it. Levy , J. Stuart Ablon on February 23, 2010 It also can be used as a resource for people considering entering therapy or who have questions about it. Therapy Does Talk Therapy Really Work? Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy. In the words of commenter Jeratain: “I cannot recommend this TED Talk enough.” How do you cope in between sessions when difficult subjects are brought up? So that was an unexpected outcome of a "light" session! Talk therapy is one of the most widely used types of therapy, and for a good reason. Talk therapies can described as types of therapies that are psychological treatments for both emotional and mental problems, such as anxiety and depression. It's just not the way I am. Find communities you're interested in, and become part of an online community! Posted Nov 06, 2010 This makes me believe that you are an honest person. Therapy is about you, it’s not a normal give and take relationship. I often feel overwhelmed by emotions/feelings after sessions (often react with unhealthy coping mechanisms) but cannot pick them apart, I think, not really. Therapy would be of little benefit if you go into every session and talk non-stop for 50 minutes. Having a trusted person to talk to is very important for one's mental health and overall happiness. Online therapy is a way to communicate with a licensed mental health professional over the phone or computer. I had had a revelation that had eluded me through years of talk therapy, in two days of text therapy. So it would be inappropriate for someone in those roles to serve as a sexual surrogate. I feel like it's both because I want to get somewhere, work through it all and not forget about anything important.. and because letting her take control and lead me somewhere scares me. But here’s the reality: Therapy is an incredibly useful tool that helps with a range of issues, from anxiety to sleep to relationships to trauma. Bring all this up with your therapist, you don't need to necessarily talk about the deeper issues straight off the bat in order to start chipping away to get to them. Online therapy differs from in-person therapy in several ways. My one friend said that common themes that comes up in her therapy is … If you already buried it... then talk about HOW YOU buried it and why. "I’d rather talk to my friends." [–]No_Philosopher1951 2 points3 points4 points 6 hours ago (2 children). Now I’m the opposite where I’m generally ok in between sessions but the second I start talking in sessions, usually about nothing in particular I start crying out of nowhere. This internet stranger is rooting for you! If you feel like you are retelling, then it may be an opportunity to shift from the content to the process. And depending on your goals, you may not actually talk … Have you tried going deeper into the emotions ? I feel like I'm going through this same circle and struggle every week and can't seem to find a way out of it. But it's a good thing you can discuss and, at least at some point, overcome this by admitting the lie and talking about it. I downplay more than I exaggerate, but it helps that she and I are both aware I do this. Many people mistakenly believe that therapy is simply a place to vent about one’s problems. Therapists are welcome to enter any discussion or to start one themselves however self-marketing posts will be removed. I've got to think about that! Can you elaborate? A thick skin is recommended. I've found it's not so much the individual item that I need to talk about (well, not always), but the theme of how that situation made me feel. Ethically speaking, a licensed therapist, counselor, clinical social worker, psychiatrist, or psychologist is firmly prohibited from engaging in sexual relationships with their clients, often for a set period of time after the professional relationship ends. So sadly I'm alone with my worries after sessions. What exactly is a kink therapist? It can mean a few different things. Get an ad-free experience with special benefits, and directly support Reddit. Maybe try exploring that? I assume it's all talked about before and after? iowa.gov is a hub of resources for Iowans. Thank you! Those seeking psychological help may be better served by posting in sister subreddits such as: Obvious anti-therapy trolls will have their posts removed and be permanently banned from the sub. They have begun recruiting 210 patients to … See what our great state has to offer! So I think I tend to present "better" in therapy than I actually am. There is an increase in farm vehicle traffic on Iowa roadways during harvest. Following are the 10 most common anti-therapy attitudes I’ve heard over the years—along with the reasons why each doesn’t really hold up. I'm so intrigued by this. [–]Stat_Julie_89[S] 2 points3 points4 points 2 hours ago (2 children). If only I knew what exactly it is that I'm protecting by numbing all these feelings/emotions.. Honesty and especially authenticity matter a lot to me, yeah. [–]Stat_Julie_89[S] 0 points1 point2 points 2 hours ago (3 children). Get an ad-free experience with special benefits, and directly support Reddit. I was so angry I couldn’t talk about the thing I wanted to bring up (a relationship issue with a maybe-ex-friend), and this was going to be a first for me - actually bringing something up to talk about and ask for his help/support around. i'm insecure about my writing, so i told her i didn't want to share any of my poems. I often go into sessions without feeling much after going through a storm of (at the moment mainly negative) emotions the days between sessions. I’d be curious about your concern that your therapist sees you a certain way and what that means, if it’s recreated in other relationships,etc. [–]NaturalLemon2 2 points3 points4 points 3 hours ago (3 children). This is not a place to get psychological help. On the other hand, I can't really have a fake "break down" like the therapists seem to want just to show them how things are. [–]Shenanigansandtoast 2 points3 points4 points 5 hours ago (3 children). Even if my memories or retelling are imperfect, I am struggling with very real issues and deserve compassion. It is a safe and supportive setting where individuals can learn health coping skills to manage their mental health symptoms. [–]hermit_the_fraud 5 points6 points7 points 27 days ago (1 child). Talk therapies, including cognitive behavioral therapy and dialectical behavioral therapy can be extremely beneficial to your mental health if you stick with it, and attend regular sessions. Now totally sold on the concept, I jumped … You don't need to know why you do something before you can work on it, that can come through the process of working through the symptom of numbing itself. I'm (I would say) rather well spoken when I'm prepared but when she manages to take me off guard, brings up a topic I did not expect, I'm mainly lost. I’m an introvert, so anything with “talk” in the name is probably doomed to failure from the get-go. and join one of thousands of communities. To better prepare you for your first therapy appointment, we asked psychologists for their advice when it comes to finding a therapist, starting therapy, and making therapy more effective. Talk Therapy: Off the Couch and into the Lab Researchers gather evidence that talk therapy works -- and keeps on working By Raymond A. [–]Derpywalnut 0 points1 point2 points 2 hours ago (0 children), I used to feel like this where is cry uncontrollably in between sessions and then be stoic and perfectly ok during sessions because I couldn’t let my defences down. Rendered by PID 7090 on r2-app-0b683e10505f328f3 at 2020-12-20 23:43:11.665459+00:00 running 406fa40 country code: US. This is not a place to get psychological help. [–]strawberrytasha 4 points5 points6 points 6 hours ago (0 children), [–]imhavingaparoxysm 4 points5 points6 points 5 hours ago (1 child). (If you're okay sharing this. [–]strawberrytasha 0 points1 point2 points 5 hours ago (1 child). Yeah, exactly. Find the info you need about business, education, health, government, & more. I’m still working through this myself and I don’t have answers. <3 This really means a lot! Glad I can be of some help. Sit in silence. Share on Reddit. I've mentioned that in sessions and am aware that it is probably some sort of transference/mirroring-thing.. it doesn't really stop it from happening; I end up in that 'Why did I say this/What if she hates me/drops me/thinks I'm awful'-abyss after every session and my therapist is surely sick and tired of me bringing that up every time. I've started keeping a sort of diary on my phone, so it's easily accessible, where I jot down thoughts/feelings/situations that are affecting me as they come up. If you could share this thought/ concern with your therapist it would probably allow for a lot of movement in session and take some pressure of if you to try and 100% accurately depict what happened. Talk to your therapist about it, I bet (if they are a good therapist) they can help you work through this. Therapy Does Talk Therapy Really Work? Finally, it could be someone who engages as a kink proxy. Now... let me sit with the feeling. Share on LinkedIn ... clinical trials targeting this condition with customized talk therapy. I let my therapist have control of the sessions so instead of weighing what is more important to talk about, I let my therapist decide the topic of discussion for me. I told him I didn’t feel I could trust him if he and I didn’t subscribe to the same reality. And when I've brought up one item on the list and really processed that in the appointment, I often find the things I learnt/realised apply to other items on the list too. (self.TalkTherapy). and join one of thousands of communities. 1. (T sexual abuse etc). It helps me numb them a little. I don't think I'm strong and resilient; I often react with unhealthy coping mechanisms when I'm overwhelmed with emotions/feelings I can't deal with or even put a name to. [–]Stat_Julie_89[S] 2 points3 points4 points 3 hours ago (0 children). That sounds really good. This is also why I sometimes think that I'd need a second therapy session the day after my weekly session or at least two days later, because this is when I'm usually processing and feeling it all while a week later I'm empty and lost and feel stupid for bringing things up. You'll find what works for you :), [–]Stat_Julie_89[S] 1 point2 points3 points 1 hour ago (0 children). From what I understand, there’s not a government-regulated licensure board for that role, and the legal side of that work carries some risk. G.Swimming pools and spas, wading pools, water slides, wave pools, spray pads, and bath houses, as defined in Iowa Code § 135I.1, if the pool did not already close under the previous order as an aquatic center. I would need my therapist a lot during these days, but when I actually get to speak to her again it always feels like it's 'too late', because the real emotions are gone. Talk therapy can help you learn about your depression and help you find ways to manage your symptoms. [–]TegridyPanda 2 points3 points4 points 27 days ago (2 children). [–]lil8mochi 0 points1 point2 points 2 hours ago (2 children). A couple of my friends also go to therapy, and we were discussing what a common theme was in our therapy. You can add live video couples sessions for $65 per 30-minute session. Free Online Therapy is an organization dedicated to providing a 24 hour online therapy chat room for those who may be struggling with anxiety, depression, or other mental health issues and would like someone to chat with to help overcome their struggles. I've actually been thinking about this, or about trying this. The need to talk about your emotions is seen as something to poke fun at, weak or shameful. [–]Stat_Julie_89[S] 12 points13 points14 points 5 hours ago (0 children). Thank you. Talk to Your Doctor Research suggests that, for many mental health conditions, combining therapy with medication is the single most effective way to see results. [–]Stat_Julie_89[S] 1 point2 points3 points 2 hours ago (0 children). And I can't deal well with that. I'm fascinated by this. REASONS WHY TALK THERAPY DIDN’T WORK FOR ME 1. i'm so proud of myself for branching out of my comfort zone and i was excited to tell her. I'm usually at loss for words there, tho, I don't know how to explain something I can't even name. I've done that as well for a while; taking notes during the week. Usually that’s for people who want to explore kinks in a safe manner. People (including my T) are, I believe, always really annoyed by me constantly needing to make sure something is really meant, but my trust issues haunt me 24/7. I eventually just tell her that I lied about something. I’m not one, nor have I ever been to one, so I’m only speaking from what I’ve heard people discussing in some of my professional circles. [–]No_Philosopher1951 0 points1 point2 points 3 hours ago (0 children). From your post you sound like someone who greatly values honesty. But I also know this feeling of frustration and regret when I didn't mention something that would've been important. Should I try to rely on my therapist less even though she doesn’t mind? The Adult IOP program is located at Iowa Lutheran Hospital in Des Moines, IA. Prompt yourself. Life Connections offers ABA as either a home or school-based therapy for children between the ages of three and 12. Potentially, yes. [–]lil8mochi 0 points1 point2 points 40 minutes ago (0 children). You might not feel any of that during the session because you are a strong and resilient person who was able to deal with the stressor on your own and did not need your therapist to help you work through it. Should I try to rely on my therapist less even though she doesn’t mind? On the other, there is such an enourmous amount of risk involved for the proxy that I can't imagine anyone opening themselves up to that kind of liability.

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